April 3rd, 2015 . by Cathy Standiford
When I bought my first car, I needed help from my parents. In fact, I remember getting the loan from the “Bank of Dad,” because I didn’t have a credit rating worthy of traditional financing. When I bought my second car, I brought a male friend along with me, because I was afraid I wouldn’t be taken seriously or treated fairly as a single woman. The third time I bought a car, I needed the income of my husband to help secure the financing to make the purchase affordable.
Earlier this week, I decided to buy a new car, after my 10-year old vehicle began showing signs of unreliability. But this time, I did it all by myself. I did the research myself, determined what kind of car I wanted myself, and intentionally went to a dealership owned by a woman (and Soroptimist), because I trusted I would be treated fairly. I fell in love with the car I wanted and yes, I was able to negotiate a good deal. (My husband was working, but encouraged me to go forth and conquer.)
But here’s the best part. I was able to get financing using my own income and credit rating–I didn’t need my husband to make the deal work.
That’s the power of economic empowerment. Wouldn’t it be great if every woman and girl could experience it, not just dream about it?
(P.S. — Thanks to Cheri Fleming, past SIA President and owner of Valencia Acura for making my car buying experience so wonderful!)
March 4th, 2015 . by Cathy Standiford
The March 3 Dilbert comic would have been more funny if it weren’t so darn true.
See for yourself…..
September 21st, 2014 . by Cathy Standiford
September 21 is the International Day of Peace, established to strengthen the ideals of peace both within and among all of the nations of the world. It’s hard to imagine peace when war and conflict, violence, disrespect and social injustice is so evident all around us. But the International Day of Peace reminds us that a different world–one without all of those things–should be our goal.
Soroptimist International President Ann Garvie has issued a statement calling on each of us to promote peace and tolerance in our local communities, while encouraging decision-makers around the world to end violence and conflict. Read her International Day of Peace message here.
To learn more about the International Day of Peace, visit internationaldayofpeace.org
July 25th, 2014 . by Cathy Standiford
This morning Soroptimist launched DREAM IT * BE IT: Career Support for Girls, a new program to provide secondary school girls with education and role models to help empower them to pursue their career goals and reach their full potential. Soroptimist clubs will be conducting community assessments to identify challenges girls face and ways to help girls overcome those challenges. They will be forming partnerships with girls in their communities to ensure DREAM IT * BUILD IT reflects their unique needs and interests. We have a wonderful opportunity to be role models and advisors to help girls get an education and live their dreams. I can’t wait to work with my club to get started!!!
July 5th, 2014 . by Cathy Standiford
While the debate continues over whether working women should have the right to employer-funded contraception in the aftermath of the Supreme Court’s “Hobby Lobby” decision, let us not forget that there are other, perhaps more significant risks to working women’s rights. A recent article by Richard Eskow points out “five signs that much more needs to be done to ensure equal workplace rights for women in the United States.” They include the fact that women continue to do most of work at home, despite working outside the home more, and the fact that the wage gap between men and women has not improved. The loss of public sector jobs and education cuts are also significant indicators that have disproportionately affected women, particularly teachers.
I am tired of women being the primary target for blame when they get pregnant (even though they don’t get that way all by themselves) and of misogynistic policies that support employer funding for Viagra in the name of “reproductive health,” but not contraceptives. But the gender inequalities many working women face every day and what we can be doing about them are just as worthy of passionate discourse–even if it’s not as sexy or inflammatory to talk about them.
I can’t help but wonder how different things might be today if the July 4, 1776 Declaration of Independence had stated, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men and women are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
May 26th, 2014 . by Cathy Standiford
Memorial Day is a national holiday in the United States for remembering the men and women who died while serving their country. There are currently more than 214,000 women serving in the U.S. armed forces, comprising approximately 14.6% of total enlisted personnel.
Although women didn’t begin serving in the armed forces until 1901, women have been on the battlefield since the American Revolution. In fact, the first woman killed by enemy fire was Jemima Warner, who died on December 11, 1775 during the siege of Quebec. Jemima had been travelling with her husband, a private in the Revolutionary Army to nurse him during poor health. Sadly, her husband died on the way to Quebec, but she continued along with the battalion.
359 women died during World War I, mostly from influenza that was sweeping the world at that time. During World War II, 543 women died in combat, 16 from enemy fire. A total of 17 nurses were killed during the Korean War, and 8 died during the Vietnam war. Sixteen women died during Operation Desert Storm. And as of April 2013, more than 143 women deployed to Afghanistan, Iraq and Kuwait had lost their lives in the line of duty. That number has likely increased in the last year.
For more interesting information about women in the military, visit the Women’s Memorial Foundation, or this website, dedicated to telling the history of women in combat.
August 28th, 2013 . by Cathy Standiford
I turned on the MTV Video Music Awards the other night because I wanted to see Lady Gaga perform. And I was not disappointed. But then there came Miley Cyrus. After watching her performance, which shocked, saddened and appalled me, I turned the TV off.
John S. Dickerson’s opinion piece in USA Today this morning gets it right. We own some responsibility (and blame and shame) for encouraging such inappropriate public behavior by young women. We encourage it through our viewing and purchasing habits, which tell young girls like Miley Cyrus that they will be loved, valued, popular, if they “get as naked as possible and behave the way sex slaves are forced to in countries where women are chained to beds and beaten.”
My biggest fear is that the post VMA chat about Cyrus will encourage her to behave this way even more. And that other young girls will be encouraged to follow in her footsteps. When we choose to watch programs that value girls and young women for something other than their bodies, only then will the kind of public display we witnessed stop being valued by our society.
August 24th, 2013 . by Cathy Standiford
For years, professional business women like me learned (sometimes the hard way), that in order to succeed we had to behave more like “the guys.” Look at business fashion for women over the last 20 to 30 years, and you’ll see what I mean. Remember those button-down blouses with the bow neckties (that were always coming undone)? Remember the boxy pantsuits? Today’s business fashion for women has changed, and fortunately, so has some of the conventional wisdom on what it takes to be a successful leader. The corporate world is beginning to recognize (albeit slowly) that some characteristics commonly demonstrated by women are actually good for business.
But there’s just one little problem.
A recent article by Dana Theus in SmartBlog on Leadership warns us that current day messages about what it takes to be an effective leader may be dangerous for us women. Why? Because some of them are intended “to help men overcompensate for some testosterone-induced bad habits. These bad boss habits include lack of empathy, rigidity and egotism.”
Unfortunately, those particular characteristics are typically not problem areas for women. Discover three leadership “truths” women should ignore and why we should be “filtering out the stuff the guys need”, but we don’t.
July 13th, 2013 . by Cathy Standiford
On her 16th birthday, Malala Yousafzai addressed the U.N. Youth Assembly, continuing her advocacy efforts to ensure that girls around the world have access to education. Her speech is riveting, inspiring, and a call to action for all of us. It is traditional to give gifts to someone on their birthday. Today, Malala gives us a gift of inspiration instead.
June 7th, 2013 . by Cathy Standiford
I’ve written about equal pay so much lately (or more accurately, bemoaning the lack of it), that I was invited to write a guest blog posting about it on the singlemom.com website. Needless to say, I’m humbled to have been asked. Singlemom.com is a website that provides advice, resources and other information to help single moms succeed. They’ve featured Soroptimist in the past, including our Women’s Opportunity Award Program.
Monday marks the 50th anniversary of the Equal Pay Act. Check out my guest blog posting here, and find out why advocating for equal pay for equal work remains so important today.